Soon, the entire family is connected only to gadgets and technology and not to one another. Then, the family dissolution might move to the father spending late nights in seclusion on the laptop, the children constantly connected to the iPad, the teenagers glued to the Internet, video games, and the TV. It might begin with an increased attachment to the cell phone, like a mother who checks her phone for texts, emails, and Facebook posts repeatedly, at dinner, at soccer games, at family gatherings. Satan does not approach a family all at once but slowly and when the family members feel most comfortable, content, and secure in their own surroundings.
Then I will come to them from before them and behind them, from their right and from their left, and You will not find most of them as thankful ones’ ” (7: 16-17). How can we guard against this assault on family life? How can we protect ourselves and the sanctity of our family connections when God tells us in the Quran: “(Satan) said: ‘Because You have sent me astray, surely, I will sit in wait against them on Your straight path. He then embraces him.”Ĭherish your family members, open your heart to them, and enjoy every moment you have together Satan goes near him and says: You have done well. Then one amongst them comes and says: I did not spare so-and-so, until I sowed the seed of discord between a husband and a wife. One of them comes and says: I did so and so. The Prophet (pbuh) said: “Iblis (Satan) places his throne upon water he then sends detachments the nearer to him in rank are those who are most notorious in creating dissension. Sowing the seeds of personal discord in family life is among that which gives Satan the most pleasure. And Satan is able to break into the bonds of family life in small steps when we are steeped in filial security and feel most confident and comfortable in our connections.
It’s an insidious process of loss and pain. Many of us wonder sometimes, how did it happen? How did I lose that connection with my family? The breakdown doesn’t happen overnight. Once we stop trying to be the best to our families, all that is best within our families begins dying. Instead, where we try the least is in our own homes. Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, reminds us that “The best of you is he who is best to his family, and I am the best among you to my family.” How many of us can say that we truly live our lives in emulation of the Prophet? How many of us can honestly say that our nicest smile is saved for our children? That our sweetest voice is saved for our spouse? That our kindest compliments are given to our parents? Unfortunately, in the concern about how we present ourselves to the world, caring so much about our reputations, many of us have strayed from keeping the best part of our selves for our families. By Suzy Ismail It’s impossible to fix what is broken if we won’t acknowledge the damage
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